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Say "No" by Saying "Yes" to Something Else

Posted on June 05, 2019

Saying "no" with grace and honesty can be challenging. Sometimes our fear of ending a conversation awkwardly or letting a friend or relative down can nudge us into saying "yes" to things that are difficult for us. When managing depression, saying "no" can feel more complicated. Will they ever ask again? Will the invites stop coming? Have I said "no" too often?

An alternative way to say "no" is to create a third option, another choice. For instance, you are invited to a barbecue, but you're not in the mood to socialize in a group setting. You could say, “I won’t make it to the barbecue, but maybe we can get coffee next week?”

Bad days arising out of the blue are beyond your control. Asking for a raincheck or suggesting a future get-together instead shows it's important to you but lets you focus on self-care.

Here are some conversations from the community about this topic:

“We all need space, our own time, and boundaries!”

“It is hard to break the bad habit of procrastinating meeting others.”

“Right now, I care about me.”

Have you found alternative ways of saying "no," without saying "no?"
Share in the comments below.

A MyDepressionTeam Member said:

I have always been afraid to say no. Especially when the relationship between my youngest and me was so tenuous. I told her no once though because I… read more

posted 20 days ago

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