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San Francisco, CA
February 26, 2025
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Members shared deep frustration over the question of what people don't understand about depression, with the overwhelming consensus being that... Read more

Members shared deep frustration over the question of what people don't understand about depression, with the overwhelming consensus being that it cannot be turned off, snapped out of, or willed away to make others comfortable. Several members described the physical toll depression takes, including exhausting fatigue that makes even basic tasks feel impossible, chronic pain, and the mental fog that distorts time and perception, with many emphasizing that smiling in public doesn't mean the depression isn't there. A recurring theme was the loneliness of fighting misunderstanding from family, friends, and even medical professionals who dismiss it as laziness, attention-seeking, or something that can be cured overnight, when in reality depression is a chronic condition requiring medication, therapy, self-advocacy, and compassionate support to manage over a lifetime.

A MyDepressionTeam Member

The most basic thing people don't understand is that you can't just "snap out of it." That it's your fault, and if you tried a little harder it would go away. That it's a character failing, or that it's really not serious.

March 18, 2025
A MyDepressionTeam Member

I don't like when someone says "get over it "

February 26, 2025
A MyDepressionTeam Member

Yes, I think we need more therapists and doctors who are in recovery from mental health and/or physical problems! . . Peace and love, Jerry . . Cool Cat. .

March 8, 2025
A MyDepressionTeam Member

I'll add more than one, since I've been fighting chronic depression for decades.
1. It doesn't have to be triggered by an event. Mine hit at puberty and is probably
genetic.
2. It affects literally everything in your life.
3. Even family and friends get tired of hearing about it or think that you're using it as
an excuse.
4. Bad times hit you harder than other people.
5. It affects your judgment and perception of events.
6. You aren't lazy, you're frozen in place.
7. Some people get better, some don't.

February 26, 2025
A MyDepressionTeam Member

How to deal with it or with someone who has it

June 24, 2025

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