I disagree but I think your therapist meant to me is that you have to do the work that therapy tells you to do. Medicine is important

I do actually. Because I felt the same way years ago. I felt like I had absolutely no control. And people who told me I did just made me mad. Because they didn't understand. But heres the thing that I learned. You do have control, just not in the way that you might think. You can't control the depression, or mood swings. But you have control of how you deal with them. You have control of how you let them affect your life. And I won't lie, it does take a lot of work to manage things. But it is possible. I was hospitalized for trying to overdose, several times. So I do understand the feeling. The medication just makes it easier for you to do the work really. It takes a lot of repetitive positive coping methods. If you have a good support team though, it can be done. Don't lose hope.

I disagree with your therapist. Yes, you are the one that controls your anxiety & depression. But if you can't control them, you need help! Medication can be a big help. If you are taking meds & it's not under control then you haven't got the right dosage or even the right medication. It took many months of trial & error to find my proper medication mixture. I take 3 different meds & I'm doing really well now & have been for a number of years. Once you've got the meds straightened out you can work on getting your attitude regarding your depression into a better place. Don't let your therapist put you down. That's the one thing you don't need now.

Kelli,
There’s many other kind, caring empathetic therapist out there if this one doesn’t work out. I think for me only a therapist making you feel good when you leave. I use cognitive therapy. It’s changed my life

You are in control. A daily walk would help both your anxiety An depression. Eating healthy,deep breathing,distractions you can control your thoughts