I have things that do help lift my spirits when I'm feeling horrible, like bubble baths, eating hot root vegetables, chai tea, going for walks, tidying or organising etc. but it's like they're erased from my mind when I am down. Sometimes I'm reminded by a friend and I paused and wonder why I don't think of them at all at the time.
I've even written them down several times in my journals to try and… read more
I read in an article about mental health and sddiction that said "patterns work for people, even when the patterns themselve don't work for them. What I take from that luttle fortune cookie proverb is that people find comfort in routines. We depend on them...I know I did. It aint no thinking thing. You just repeat what you know and we all know what we know. That is why i think DBT and CBT was so crucial to breaking up the dialectic and giving me control over the choices I made. When addiction and abuse is stretched over decades, its hard to distinguish thebtrees from the forest. Think of it this way, the whole reason it became a routine or habit is so that we wouldn't have to think. - it just happens. Additiionally when it has been a decades long habit, you can get overwhelmed by the idea of changing it. Who do I see? does my insurance cover it? Can I afford it? Do Ibhave to change or end friendships, relationshios...Where do I start? Do I have a problem? Do I EVEN have a problem? Its not depression, I'm just tired....etc. we drown in all this and we end up falling back on old habits. On non-thinking habits.
It probably depends on the "degree " of your low mood. When we are very "down ," we sometimes don't have the motivation or desire to help ourselves. That is where your friend comes in; she can help to coax you into doing things that she is aware of that helps you.
I don't think it's that you simply can't remember; depressed minds tend to be overwhelmed by depressed thoughts.
Thank God for your thoughtful friend!
If writing them down does not work. Try making a happy book. A small album of pictures of you on vacation, your cat/dog, wedding day, or out with your bff. Make it handy, like on the coffee table . Its a great convo starter/ice breaker when friends are over and accessible for you. On the go you can create a file on your phone and keep a digital form of it that you can access.
I step outside and focus my attention on nature. I pick one item like the air. Is cold and harsh? Gentle and light. Does it have any scents? I guess, its mindfulness. It helps soothe my ailing spirit.