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Tap Into the Power of Directness: Use "I"

Posted on August 15, 2019

Living with depression can mean having limited energy, time, and bandwidth. You may find yourself needing to say "no" more often than you did before experiencing depression. Do you have a tough time being direct with others about how you feel? It's not unusual to feel awkward or self-centered when turning down a request or an invitation. You may feel at the mercy of the other person's need.

Using "I" statements can help put you back in the driver's seat of the situation. An "I" statement directly communicates your feelings and sets a clear boundary, allowing you to focus on treating your depression and managing depression-related symptoms like fatigue and anxiety.
For instance:


I don't feel like going.
I'd rather do something else instead.
I can't do it this week.
Whenever I attend that event, it takes me days to recover.

At first, you may feel vulnerable about using direct "I" statements when saying no. Your true feelings are exposed, and you may be judged for using depression as an excuse. "I" statements can also be freeing! You don't need to pretend or tell a white lie. It's ok to communicate directly about what you need.

Using an "I" statement is a way of taking responsibility for your feelings. You are not blaming or accusing the other person. You are being honest about your needs and making sure they are recognized.

Members of MyDepressionTeam shared some of their experiences with communicating directly:

"I'm tired of biting my tongue just to keep the peace."

"It felt good to finally own my mental illness and to stand up for all of us warriors fighting a daily battle to simply live a normal life."

"I've got to learn to speak up for myself."

Have you used "I" statements to set boundaries? How did it feel?
Share your stories about direct communication in the comments below or on MyDepressionTeam.

Posted on August 15, 2019
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