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Do some people not get that everyone wants kids? If you want to get married and have a child fine. But to say that a life without children is unfulfilling is very insulting to people that don't want kids by choice. There is trauma people deal with that causes them not to want kids. Maybe there are people that know in no way they are set to be a parent. There are some people that have selfish reasons to have children. You have to be a very selfless person at a lot of times when your a parent… read more
I am 41 years old and with my older age and my poor health I am not fit to be a mother. Once I got married in 2012, I had 2 miscarriages. But after the 2 miscarriages we never tried for children again. And I am happy with being a dog mommy for my doggy Caddy!!!
I wanted kids I always thought I would have 3 but I'm happy in a way I don't have any I'm a worrier at the best of times and the last 5 years my health has been all over the place I'm hoping to do travelling later on in life so don't mind being childless now.
How can you honor your decision to be childfree while managing feelings about societal expectations?
Your self-awareness about what you need is really valuable. Choosing not to have children is a valid, personal decision that deserves respect. Living with depression can make it even more important to understand your limits Show Full Answer
Would have liked to have kids just wasn’t in the cards. Love what you have
Thank you, Joyce. Sounds to me like your children knew they were loved, so became the independent souls they were supposed to be rather than reflections of their parents. Bless you for turning your own hurt into a powerful intention to do other than your parents did you.
I had no such faith in myself. I had no faith in the adults around us that should have intervened and didn't. I'm still angry about the teachers, nurses, policemen who lived within a block of us and did nothing to interrupt the insanity. They all knew what was happening--he was not quiet in his frequent rage.
I thought to become a parent was to become a beast or a coward, and I wanted no part of either. How good it was to find as I grew that not all adults were like that. But by then it was too late for me. No regrets. Bygones.
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