How Do I Say No?
How Do I Say No?
I have always been the girl that says yes to everything, and that includes my family. I feel like I am used by them 100% of the time! And when I do stand up for myself, they act like they are so upset that I put my foot down and then act like they are extremely upset. Today, just a few minutes ago actually, my dad called my cell phone while I am at work. I didn't answer because I was busy. He then hangs up the phone and calls me back again. I didn't answer again. So when I finally got a minute… read more
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I would definitely ask him not to call when you're at work unless it's urgent. I'm kinda like you. I have a hard time saying no. I try to figure out if what they're asking me conflicts with my plans. If not then get more details from them on what they want from me. The thing people ask me for the most is a ride somewhere. I don't always feel like leaving the house. I say yes most of the time because it forces me to get out of the house for a little while. But if I've been busy all day and just want to stay home I do. I say no. You have to have time to yourself too. It may seem selfish but sometimes you have to be.
I really do not have much of an answer to your problem, but this is the best one I can think of. We all need space in our lives away from family and their phone calls so we and our families can examine just how we should handle our problems. Stop taking his calls just for a while, and see if that helps your situation. if that does not work ask him to quit calling you at work. I am not the best problem solver, but I do my best to suggest things you might consider. I pray that you will come up with a solution that will be beneficial to you and your dad. praying for you.!
