when i was growing up my mother was verbally abusive.... i still have lingering issues... im 57... i did not speak with her for about 11 years in my 40s....till my older brother passed away.... it is such a weird thing to go thru... as a kid.. you are suppose to love them and yet they make you feel terrrible... so you try harder and nothing works.... my therapist finally said to me why are you still speaking with her . you know, you dont have to talk to people who continue to hurt you... that was the omg moment ... now im working on moving on from my marriage... same thing....

I'm sorry you have to go through this. My advice, if possible, move in with a friend or relative for a few days. Also, go for assertiveness training - it will help you learn how to stand up for yourself without being abusive back. If possible read "When I say no, I feel guilty" by Dr Manuel J Smith. It's an excellent resource to have and it will help you claim back your power. Once you feel stronger, lay down some serious boundaries with your mother and enforce them. Always be consistent and let her know that you won't tolerate her abusive behaviour. Hopefully, by doing so, you will condition her to change the way she treats you.

In the meantime, however, when she is verbally abusive do not react emotionally, no matter how much she hurts you. Take a deep breath and calm yourself down before you react. The biggest mistake I made with my sister was allowing her to get away with her abusive ways because I wasn't strong enough to stand up for myself and by doing so I conditioned her to think her behaviour was acceptable which is why we had a really bad fight before I packed my stuff and moved back in with my parents.

I'm so sorry your going through that. How it was growing up with my dad. But he was very physical abusive as well. Put me in the hospital a few times. Walking on eggshells around someone like that is a living nightmare. Journalling helped alot and music.

can you ask your teacher for help

Yes. Good question Vicki? Talking it out of your body and to another trusted caring soul is the best. Keep in mind your mother's pain is not yours. Took me a long time to figure that one out.