@A MyDepressionTeam Member I don’t have much to say that hasn’t been said except that we have to take care of ourselves. Depression makes us feel badly about ourselves to begin with and being emotionally abused by others makes us worse. I’ve also found that people who abuse others seem to find people already suffering from low self esteem to hurt.
Take care of yourself.

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Hi, @A MyDepressionTeam Member

I have one of those too, although I don't think she is a narcissist but rather overly critical of my life and the decisions I make. I've simply learned to switch off whenever she talks. I've somehow managed to not internalise what she says anymore, especially if she is being super critical of me as she likes to be.

A few years back, I would have picked a fight with her but it's just not worth it so now I simply ignore her and carry on with my life. If however, she does get under my skin for whatever reason, I simply get up and walk away. I don't allow her to see that she has upset me.

So, my advice to you would be to ignore it. My problem is that I am very soft-spoken and empathetic, and she is more critical and unemotional so it's easy for her to point fingers but for some reason, she can't handle it when it is returned.

Here are links to a few articles:
http://narcissismschild.com/2016/01/18/when-you...
https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/sense...
https://thenarcissisticlife.com/5-signs-narciss...

Happy reading and good luck!

You're worth so much more, love and if he wants to be a prick then let him. Love him from a distance but don't let him under your skin.

Be like this cat :)

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I have found for myself that speaking up is moving the muscle of our mind and soul. If we do not set a boundary with losers, we do not protect ourselves and the abuse gets stuck in our head. This is very important for your strength and ego. Don't let anyone get away with it. Try not to. I know its hard when you are caught off guard and don't expect it.

I feel when the abuse gets bad enough and you have had enough, you automatically speak up in some way. Even if its never saying a word and running away. However, if you do not stand up for yourself, it haunts you.

The tell you to say I feel statements.

Here are some examples.

"I feel that you are trying to make up for your low self esteem and inner insecurities when you speak to me that way"

"If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all."

"What is your problem that you have to talk to me that way. I am not listening to your bullshit".

Only people who are masking insecurities act mean towards others.

It is important to stand your ground. Once you do, it will not bother you anymore.

The other person will "get it" and you can chop down their ego with your words. Good luck. Your worth it.

You can't change them. If you confront them and they love you, they might hear what you are saying. Maybe not. I find the narcissist is easiest to deal with when they are down and out. Being ill deflates their ego.

My mom was the queen of narcissism, but everything was really based on her own insecurity. It made me sick dealing with her, but now I take care of her. Now that she is feeble, its easier to confront her. She cannot mercilessly verbally abuse me into the ground. I still let her get her nails done and she is 93 years old. She goes to the manicurist for gel manicures. I bought her a wig since she lost her hair. I compliment her on getting up and dressing up and wearing nice shoes even though her feet are swollen.

My husband is a narcissist. He has convinced himself he is a king, and expects to be waited on. Underneath it all he is a person from an emotionally broken family who had to keep his head high to survive. He was just a fat kid who had to convince himself he was the best that life had to offer.

I guess when you realize the roots of narcissism, its easier to deal with.

I have reverse narcissism. That's when you blame yourself for everything bad that happens and feel like everyone is putting you down. Its like the flip side of narcissism. Yes, I was surprised to find out there is reverse narcissism too, wanting to get attention in a negative way somehow.

Oh well nobody is perfect. Hope you can laugh thru it despite depresion. xo

It's tough when it is a sibling do that to you. Where is your parents, do they care that he is doing this to you? You going have to find away to get strong around him walk from him when he starts with you. Is there anyone you can talk to about him. If not you stand by yourself and you need to get some self defense habits in you so you can survive with your sibling. Do not let them bring you more down than what you are. I know this is hard but make changes in you to be able to handle their narcissistic self. As long you let them know they can get to you they will. Take care love.