I do the same thing and I become so consumed with worry that everyone is mad at me and I did something wrong. That will stay with me all day or days, weeks, etc and it starts causing extreme anxiety and I become very emotional and it def becomes all I can think about. I hate it. A lot of mine stems from an abusive childhood with a father who expected absolute perfection and then from my previous relationship which was with a narcissist who was so emotionally and mentally abusive that he had me walking on eggshells constantly and convinced me that everything I did was wrong so he was always mad; I'd wait in fear each day for him to get home Bc he'd always find something I did that would enrage him. He also had me believing that everyone else around me felt the same way about me and that nobody, not even my family, liked me and that I was a complete screw up. I'm working on this now since getting away from him, but I still find myself apologizing constantly for things I don't even have control of and explaining my actions constantly for doing the things I do, but I'm better about communicating when I think someone is mad or ignoring me and I try not to let it get to me but I admit it does bother me. I recently tried to reach out to my ex best friend who hasn't spoken to me for 3 years over something really dumb, after I said I wouldn't be the first one to reach out. Well she didn't bother to respond and it hurts a lot to feel like I've been written off by someone who I used to spend almost every day with for years. Hurts to think people can just stop caring that easily, or worse, wonder if they ever actually cared in the first place.

Hmm yes, sometimes I think people are fed up of hearing from me, but that isn't always the case, sometimes they have their own lives to lead, and we need to respect that, sometimes take a step back, and see from others point of view, sometimes if they need a break, they stop answering for our benefit, so when they feel stronger they can be there for us in a stronger and more helpful frame of mind, nobody is perfect, and you shouldn't worry that you have done something wrong just because they don't answer, sometimes they may not know how to respond in a helpful way, so don't respond, other times they are waiting for the right opportunity, for example face to face/in person, this doesn't reflect on you as a person, perhaps their just busy, I'm trying to actually stop myself from being bothered about people not answering their phones to me, but it's not easy, I hope you find a way to feel better about it xxx

We care Elanagroenewald 😊

All the time. Especially with one friend in particular. I start to rack my brain about what I did or said during the last conversation to make him ignore me. Then I get angry with him and myself for being so hung up on him ignoring me. Then I'll see him or he'll send me a text and I'm OK. Then I can relax. It's daft I know but there it is. ☺

I just went through that with my sister. We went camping with her and her family but my wife became ill after a few days and I stuck with her until we could get home and get her some help. Then it seemed my sister wouldn't answer messages. I guess she was just busy but my mind went to some pretty dark places before she actually responded.