I've been dealing with my issues for about 15 years been in and out of hospitals up till someone finally figured out what was wrong during those years my family has pretty much left me I wish I could have it all back before this, but the way they see it the answer is no. I've tried talking, writing letters and sometimes face to face only to be meet with me being alone. How do I fix this? what do I need to do? Help.
SandraOntario to Miller .. lay off your family members for awhile.
Find a Support Group - a men's group with a really good moderator would be invaluable. Try the WMCA !!!
Make a good life for yourself .. and later try getting in touch with one family member to meet for a coffee.
Let that person do most of the talking .. say you enjoyed the meet-up.
Leave without trying to get them to meet you again ( don't seem "needy" )
Best Wishes .... Sandra
I am sorry I can't tell you it was fiction, but its the truth. Hang on tight we will get through tight we will get through this
Thank you Momofahojiex2 for that wonderful story!
i have had your question on my mind. i know with my illness I have said things and done things to my family that I shouldn't have done. Sometimes though I have tried to hard to fix. God always forgives us, but sometimes family won't. All you can do is tell them you are sorry and ask forgiveness. Own your mistakes. The rest is up to them. Sometimes people aren't able to forgive & forget. Then sometimes it just takes more time. I was in a psychiatric hospital in November I had psychotic ideations,something I had never experienced before with my depression. I said somethings that were only partially true. And because I was protecting another person in my life. I couldn't tell that any part was true. I'm not sorry I idecided not to say part was true. I don't like hurting people.No one would have believed me anyway. I was in ICU for two days and two nights, because of kidney function and attempted to harm myself. Before I was transferred to the psychiatric hospital, I called all the family I had hurt and asked them to come see me before I left for the other hospital. I asked their forgiveness and told them the rest was up to them,because I couldn't take it back. To make a long story short, I had one grandchild -23 yrs old to call me and I told her I was sorry , and her words was."just don't do it again";;lol. Then at Christmas dinner I heard her tell a room full of people that she was so proud of me. What for? It wasn't like I got sick on purpose, I will suffer before i hurt others, if I can. The next time somebody says they are proud of me. Room full of people or, I am going to ask,"what for." So embarrassing. It's like i told my pcp, I am almost 60 years old. During that time, i think that everyone goes through crap at one point or another. it worries me though, that people think that nothing bad is ever going to happen to them. I believe God has a purpose and will work things out to good, for them that love Him. There is a reason for everything, we might not know it at the moment, but we will someday. Even if it just to share our experience with someone who needs it.
Have faith, people are only human. Some people think they are perfect.
Not me, I learned that along time ago.