Because of my anxiety with OCD and depression I am not as assertive as I need to be sometimes. It's hard for me to say NO. I have no confidence in myself. I feel like some people use this against me or for their benefit. It's so frustrating. Have you ever felt this way? If so, how do you handle it?
Are you feeling self-conscious about experiencing anxiety, depression and OCD?? I hope you can be honest with yourself about this. Maybe you are judging yourself negatively?? What exactly are others saying or doing to make you feel taken advantage of or used somehow? You have every right to change your reactions and responses to others and make a judgment about your desire to help someone else and say no if you need to take care of yourself instead of helping someone else. Unfortunately, I believe there is STILL a negative stigma in this society about mental illness. I'm sure you are not crazy. You sound rational to me. If you feel you get negative responses when someone else knows about your symptoms, then perhaps distance yourself from that person or don't talk about your symptoms to that person anymore. Maybe others need to see how you can successfully manage your symptoms to help others understand better. Good luck...
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I have the same happening to me.
I clearly understand.
I feel like in going over the edge
Don't think I can go on
But know I have too
In here if you wanna talk.
Hi GinaKay. Oh yes. This is the first time someone has brought up that subject and I thank you. I also have a very hard time saying no to anyone and over the years have wound up being used or doing things I don't want to. It's very hard to handle. With the help of people on this site I'm realizing where some of my stress comes from and there have been some helpful suggestions as well.
As far as handling the situation, I'm still working on it. I'm learning that saying no is not the end of a friendship or hurting a family member. And if it is, that person was not worth my time. Sounds brave and I really get excited when I'm able to say no.
You hang in there. Hope you have a good day. xxx
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