I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, losing a parent is one of the hardest things to go through. I lost my mum when I was 18 (I'm 26 now) and I still struggle some days. Time has made it alot easier but there are definitely still days where it's harder to deal with. I've found when I'm feeling like that though I try and force myself out of the house to go for a walk or simply listen to some music - anything that will distract me from thinking about it too much and it does help a bit. Do you have support from friends and family? Try reaching out to someone and telling them you're struggling, I know it's not always easy but it could help to talk about it with someone in your support circle maybe. I hope this helps in some way xx

I lost my dad in 2001. He had cancer. A month after being diagnosed he died. Was such a shock. For months after I used to see him everywhere. I'm not saying it was him appearing, could've been my mind. I did feel his presence quite a few times. This helped a little but I think time heals. I still miss him but it doesn't hurt as much anymore.

One never gets over the death of a parent you just learn to live and cope with the loss

I lost my adopted mum when I was 16 and my dad was an alcoholic so a waste of space. It was like someone picked me up and dropped me in the middle of the world with no life skills. Once the funeral was over I had to focus on surviving so I never really had the luxury of remembering or mourning her. My life took a turn when I had my son, once I felt safe that the rest of my life was 'stable' there was a part of me that relaxed and that's when I allowed myself to mourn; that was 6 years later. When I gave myself that genuine time to miss her, I started to heal. There is a big difference though between allowing yourself to miss them as opposed to feeling sorry for yourself because they're no longer here. One is healthy, one is depression. The first one is about missing them, the second is about you. The healthy focuses on remembering the good times and laughing during the time of remembrance, depression makes you feel sorry for yourself because they're no longer here 'for you'.

Moving on is about trying to focus on the healthy aspect. Remember them, yes; cherish the memories, yes; however make it about them not you. When you can make this emotional shift you will move from mourning to remembrance.

In June, my dad will have been gone five years. We lost him on Father's Day which seems like some sort of sick irony. To this day, that wound is still fresh. I don't think someone ever truly heals from such a massive loss. But I have found that listening to his favorite songs or watching his favorite movies has gone from being a painful experience to being some of the only peace I find in a world without him.

It's worth trying. Put on an album from your father's favorite band and remember him for the time you shared, not the time you've lost. In my case, I can't say that the pain goes away, but it does make you stronger and you can move forward. Wishing you the best!