I do not have a child who is transgender. I want to share something my ob/gym shared after I miscarried and was having a hard time moving on. What he said really made sense. He said what I was grieving the most was letting go of what I was looking forward to. I was grieving the loss of the babies future. For example: looking forward to when he or she rolled over, crawled, got her first tooth, calling me mommy, going to school, homecoming, prom, marriage, grand babies and many other firsts. I hope this helps in understanding some of what you are feeling

@A MyDepressionTeam Member ... I understand exactly what you mean. Even though my daughter has been doing this for only 2 years, it may as well be 10. The pain in my heart is horrible because there is nothing I can do about it. It is extremely hard to see all the young ladies getting married and having children. I always dreamed of seeing my girl in her wedding gown, and it absolutely crushes me to realize that is something that I will never see happen in her life. It's gotten to the point that I can't even watch commercials that show a Mama with her little girl - those just tear my heart out.
I will always love my daughter. At the same time, I will always resent this so-called "male" who has destroyed my baby girl.
I did find something "natural" that has helped with my depression, and I would highly recommend it to anyone having problems with the dark monster of depression. It is called Stress ReLeaf, and I purchase it online at herbsetc.com. This softgel has done wonders for me, and it's something I'm not likely to quit using. Along with praying for my daughter - knowing that God can do anything - is the best advice I could give to any other parent struggling with a transgender child.
I did start a blog on the subject, and you are more than welcome to read and join in. Together - we are stronger, and we also have other people to "lean" on. Here is the link to my blog if you are interested in checking it out.
https://mythoughtsforme.wordpress.com/2017/01/0...

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My only daughter is transgender. She has been this way for ten years. I am still grieving the loss of my daughter. It breaks my heart that I will never have the joy of seeing her get married or becoming a mom. Every day is so hard seeing all my friends daughters getting married and having children. I am so depressed I feel no joy in my life. It is so hard because there is nothing I can do about it.

@A MyDepressionTeam Member - Yes, there is a 'true' feeling of loss/grief. I experienced many of those "firsts" with my little girl - then it all stopped abruptly after 20 years of her life - just as if she had died. The realization of never seeing her be a bride, become a Mama, etc. set in and honestly it felt as if I was gonna die. The emotional upheaval in my own life has been horrible ... I can only imagine the turmoil that goes on within my child with the changes she has made.
Thank you for sharing your experience with me, it does help ... and I'm sorry for the loss of your little one.

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Hi. I'm a parent of a transgender now woman. I was fortunate to find a support group on line to help. Most of us grieve the "loss" of our sons and/or daughters. It took me a very long time to come to acceptance. I had to remember my daughter is the same person only with a different body and new name. Hugs.