I think the hardest part with dealing with depression is making people understand how you feel, I find it hard to express how I feel. Sometimes I feel like even my family thinks I'm making excuses, I'm being lazy whereas I don't know how to deal with anything. I'm more scared of failing them more than anything.
Trying to get people to understand how you feel is like trying to put out a fire by pouring petrol on to it. You can not fail anyone worse then you can yourself. Why be scared? Why look for anyone's approval? "You think I'm lazy" Great your opinion of me does not define who i am and who i will be. Be a success for you and you know what it will make everything around you easier. Life is not like a typical exam where you have an "A" stuck in front of you or an "F" no that is not life, life is YOU.. It starts with you and it ends with You.
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I know it's hard. Try taking care of yourself right now. Depression is a serious disorder can can have serious consequences. Most ppl will not understand. Instead of turning to them you can always turn to us. I just upset with my family members because they act like I should just act happy even if I'm not. For their sake. Not caring about the torment I'm feeling inside. Sometimes family is not the best support system.
I know am there and have been there on various levels for years now... I'll message you later properly as I've got an appointment to see a new dr soon 0.o Even finding a dr who is willing to listen and take in what you're trying to say is hard.. I know how tired you are and every minute is a fight but you are strong and can get through this, this does not define you! Stay strong lovely, more later :)
I'm not sure people who haven't been through something like this can understand any more than I could understand what it is like to have a broken leg because I've never had a broken leg... But IF they are open and wanting to learn about you then personally I would start getting together some factual things, studies, stats etc and I would also rather than trying to talk about it would write things down, write down how certain things make me feel both mentally and physically the reason why I would choose to write rather than talk is that talking about it for me is emotional and if you add others peoples questions/interrupting/body language/ etc into the mix for me would be too much I would end up getting emotional/annoyed/frustrated so I would try to distance myself from that through writing it out...
There is a lot of myth and misunderstanding in regards to mental health so whenever tackling others I find it helps to be able to give others facts, like in the UK 1 in 4 people every year will experience mental health problems, so you're not only giving them information but you're also making them see that it is not uncommon, that it can happen to anyone, how it can effect the whole body, how you can get physical pain...
I'm not sure if any of that will help but I do find that ignorance is very common and the only way to move past that is to educate but for that to work the people your talking with must have a want to learn so be careful who you invest your efforts in because some people will never want to learn.
I was the same way , but your not lazy and your not making excuses. Don't let anyone tell you any different. People just don't understand and I'm tired of worrying about what they don't understand. Keep your head up it does get better.