@wanttobeinvisible. .I am a trained counselor but don't practice anymore due to my own mental health issues. What you are feeling is completely normal...you came to trust her and felt ok about opening up. I also saw a counsellor after my son and husband died and it was a challenge when I had to stop seeing her her. I had feelings towards her because I put my trust in her and maybe under different circumstances we would have been friends. ..the relationship that develops with your counsellor is a complex one and she helped you so I can understand why you now miss that support and safety that you felt when you were with her. Christmas is nearly upon us which is such a hard time trying to appear ok when inside you could be feeling bad...I know that all I hv wanted to do this week is stay in bed n cry but am gonna hv to drag myself out of bed n do things for the sake of my kids. I hope you can find some peace n hope during this time...keep in touch. .know that you are not alone as many of us will be battling our own demon's. ..will be thinking of you...xx

Actually I don't mean to sound rude, or condescending, but your counsellor doesn't sound very proffessional, your counsellor should have discussed attachment, and very gradually ended your sessions, and ensured you had some kind of supportive safety net in place, not just cut you off like this, it sounds like your counsellor needs to be told that you're not ready to end you're sessions just yet, maybe make sessions less frequent, and possibly shorter in length, this is not your fault, so please be patient with yourself, it's normal to form attachment with someone we trust so much, I hope you can gradually feel comfortable without her in your life, but sessions should never be ended abruptly, so she only has herself to blame if you've developed an attachment issue that causes you to continue to try to contact her xxx *big hugs & squishes* :)

I think that is perfectly understandable. This woman is someone who has earned your trust, has established a bond which is close, has been someone you have been able to confide in/open up to, which can be a really difficult thing to do. So, yes, I think you are realising that the absence of this person will leave a hole in your life and, naturally, you will miss her.

I think you are feeling the loss of your counselor because you have been very dependent on her. She has become like a friend & you are grieving . This often happens as you have built up a therapeutic relationship with her over time. Is there a local Mind where you can go? They can be very helpful

@Wantingtobeinvisable. Hiya. I get that feeling of dread when my routine changes. I finished up work for Christmas on Friday morning and I know it sounds sad but I miss the people in work already. I've had a knot in my stomach all day. They have been a great support to me and it's probably where I'm most comfortable. I'd recommend having a friend or family member who you can talk to as well. Alternatively we're here for you if needed.