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Looking retrospectively at my life, I notice that from the age of 15 right up to my late 30's that I had a very negative sense of myself. I think we all know what I'm talking about here; anyone who suffers with a serious mental illness like depression (and it's variants) knows the debilitating feelings that well up and how they flow on to affect every aspect of our lives. We end up feeling isolated, unloved/unloveable, and ultimately worthless. Is it any wonder that suicidal ideation follows… read more
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Self mirror affirmations helped me xx give it ago x
Here is the thing I was talking about. My therapist calls it filters and you use them to assess emotions and beliefs. This has helped me a great deal. When confronted by an emotion or belief, it helps me to assess it in rational manner. Sure, you may still feel a certain way, but at least you can try and understand it and try to deal with it.
The filters are as follows:
What you feel and think must go through the following filters
T IS IT TRUE
H IS IT HELPFUL
I IS IT INSPIRING
N IS IT NECESSARY
K IS IT KIND
@A MyDepressionTeam Member maybe this will help you assess the feelings and beliefs you have about yourself. I have days like that too and nothing anyone says makes it better. It is terrible and I try to deal with it the best I can.
Thanks for this. This has been a major issue for me all my life, mostly because of my visual disability. Before I started to prep for my first bodybuilding competition, that broke the camel's back, I came to realize again how much my disability impacted on my life. This is something that I chose to ignore in the past. A bad thing, because if you want to overcome your obstacles in life, you need to know what they are and accept them. I didn't and it came back to bite me. Hence the bodybuilding prep. I did for the wrong reasons as I anticipated it to restore my self as a whole. It didn't, it could have been a great help, but I chose to bank on it completely. Lesson learnt.
My therapist has given me a great read about dealing with emotions. I will scan it in and share it over the weekend or so.
Some days I feel so low I just stay in bed all day only get up to get boys to school and fed them n back to bed , my mind some times runs away on me and I end up questioning everything but the answers seem to come back to me not doing my job properly ,as a mum or partner ,
I think Bernard said exactly what my response would be. Using the filters is the best way of using your rational thinking to get through these feelings. Hope you are feeling better soon.
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