I have always known I have depression. One key trigger that sent my life into a tailspin is the blatant verbal, emotional and physical abuse I suffered at the hands of an individual I loved with all my heart.
The relationship I attempted almost two years after that ended recently. And again my trust of people has been shattered.
How do I, find and form a healthy, committed relationship with a man when I feel defective, when I mistrust?
It feels like I am self- sabotaging myself.
I finally figured out that until I could love myself and be happy without a relationship, I would never be any good for anyone else. You can't love someone else if you don't love and care for you. I was also in a very abusive relationship and it ended horribly with me having to get a protection order. Thank goodness for the last five years I have been with my best friend of all times. That is another thing you must be is friends and friends first. Wish I had better advice I just know that is what I have learned and it worked! I still have terrible depression when I doubt myself and my existnace but now I am not handling it alone. Plus I have you guys!!! (smile) Hope things get better and you can see how special and worthy you really are and you don't deserve to be with anyone who doesn't cherish you and walk by your side throughout this journey.
well dear all i can say is dont go look for love rather let love find you... give yourself time to mend your broken heart from all the scares your ex left teach yourself how to self love and dont u ever and i mean ever blame yourself appreciate yourself simply because you manage to get outta the relationship alive that shows you still had it in you to see that u deserve far more than u settling and getting from your ex, yes i may not know the real reason for your break up thou hang in there and remember we meet people for 2 reasons only its either they will be a blessing or a lesson which both shall and will help with self development in intimate and friendships.... VALUE and LOVE YOURSELF the rest shall follow. mwaaaaaaaaaaaahs a big kiss from me to you.:)
Hey hon I can honestly say for me in relationships all of my stuff came up and out they were horrible. I am at the stage now where I have been working on me fairly consistently and am much more willing to accept me a good part of the time. I obviously chose for me people that would help me see just what I needed to. I had all kinds of abuse, it was not pretty but it has helped me to know exactly what I dont want wont tolerate and how much better I deserve to be treated .
take it slow day by day try to do things slow