Move

I'm a very blunt person, so sorry if I'm crass. I've lived with my mother off and on during my entire life for whatever reason at the time. Quit school at 14 as I slipped deeper into my mental state, over 18 and broke, debilitating struggle with my anxiety and depression, lost my job, to help her afford relocating to raise my nieces, when she lost her job unfairly after 18 years, to care for her after a stroke, to help me with raising my daughter after my marriage busted. It's what family does. So my tip is to blow sunshine up their a**. Start a beautification project that makes you look helpful and considerate, provides you the isolation or dismissal you seek, and might help bring you a meditative place. Especially, if they own their home... DIY projects. Painting necessary areas, laying tile or laminate flooring to improve quality, backsplash, regrouping existing tile, deep clean projects like calcium buildup, landscaping which can evolve into gardening, window washing/dressing/treatments/curtains. People don't pay attention if you seem productive in their favor. They assume you're normal or don't care cause free labor. I know it seems impossible to find the motivation but it can help you build a little bit at your own pace and even a drawn out project looks productive. Planning, material collection, brainstorming, seasonal effects are all the common woes of DIY on those days you just can't make yourself give a f**k. Must be a day needed to do some "research".

I meant only if you felt comfortable doing so. Sometimes they find out about our issues on their own if we let our problems get bad enough. But it’s true that there are people we just can’t talk to about everything, whether it’s parents or other people in your life. I guess for now prioritize yourself, try to find some degree of inner peace, doesn’t have to be much, just enough to stabilize yourself.

But How huh? How can I open up to my parents with my depression? I mean just cause they get so freakin up tight, offended easily, it’s hard for me to go to say, or tell them of how I go to feel in life.

That’s a tough one. Thanks for asking, I’m sure a lot of people here will benefit from the answers you get. I guess it depends on the type of parents, I’m lucky that mine are very tolerant of my mental health challenges. The most I can say is maybe try to find a way to adapt/survive. Create a safe space, find an outlet, get out the house if possible. And if you feel comfortable doing so, maybe open up to your parents about your depression.