You need to just : 1. Be
Yourself and with that having been said ; you need to let your natural self show thru yourself.
2. Be truthful , honest & open about yourself with yourself and to other people. They always say : "Honesty, is the best policy ! "
....So , put your best foot forward and let yourself shine through. Take it from someone who has been there ; done that
and done it some more.

Curtis Jones

If someone loved you you will know it

There are lots of different types of people in the world. And really we're only looking for just one person.
This is a tough question. I think I found by finding something I love doing like music I may have distracted myself from self thoughts. It was ten years ago I finished doing theatre and pouring every effort into singing dance and acting. But since then I've done some things to handle hurts like my drum teacher dying all alone by going and playing a major event he liked.
And even more so last year I was asked to play for her Majesty The Queen 3 weeks prior to her passing.
All this allowed me to do things I enjoy and I didn't think so much.
And that's one thing I haven't done much in past years: take time off, to travel- seeing as I live in Australia. We lost dad 2 years ago and mum could travel to the UK and visit her childhood home.
And this all happened because I went off to find something I enjoy and always wanted to do.
I hope this helps. And since then I met someone who has a family from a different country who also lost people in her family.

Bless you

Curtis has very good advice. Be open and honest and see how things go