Sometimes you can't remove the memories and emotions. Loss of any type requires grief. We all need time to grieve. That action, like losing a loved one to death, is a matter of learning to live with loss. Not just writing it off. And subjective shame or guilt for comparing our loss to personal failure, is accepting anothers disrespect for our feelings and emotions. We must not accept that from a person we have emotions for. Boundaries are our best offensive action. Forgiveness is our freedom. Be free dear friend. You are worth much better. - JH

Hi i had the same thing happen to me i was marrried for 12 years she cheated on me and left to a different state. Its been almost 3 years and it does get easier but i was so in love wuth her and nobody knows it but me.All my friends and family hates her what she did to me. What help me out i thought what the other person did to you and doesnt care about you instead of the goodtimes will you like to talk more

That’s a tough one. If you know he’s bad for you and the relationship will never last. You just take baby steps. Of course you are going to remember the good times. His addiction is something he needs to get help for. He has to want to get help. It’s difficult I had the same situation.

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I feel where you are coming from. I just left a 10 year relationship. We still talk. I just can't bring myself to cut all ties with her. I miss her granddaughter whom I helped raise more than anything. I still haven't cut the lights off in my name and I still pay the phone bill in her name.