Does anyone feel unworthy to their spouses? My husband says he loves me but i am not feeling it. In any case i need help being fine without him cause its as he withdraws whenever i become emotionally dependent on him? At this point my whole existance revolves around him and my son and it feels like my cup is empty. I want to be fine with myself, be able to do things for myself, feel good about myself without his approval? I hate needing his approval for everything i do, i… read more
We have to fix ourselves and be happy with ourselves to gain the confidence we need so we aren't do dependant on our spouses .if we don't love ourselves how can anyone love us or how can we feel loved. This is the part I need to fix in my life too .how do I get my confidence back. I don't want to have to depend on anybody....
Hi Mandi, I'm in the same boat. And my significant other is a medic :-) So, unless my arms or legs are literally severed from my body, I get no sympathy, love or attention from him...which drives my thoughts in a very wrong direction to try and get his attention. I'm also battling with the issue of self worth and validation right now, so all I can say to you right now is that you are worthy, you are loved. We must not let others' inability to show love let us doubt ourselves. I know its difficult, but together we can overcome this feelings! Strongs Friend! Hugs
Thanx darkangel1. Yea im trying my best to feel good about myself and maybe someday he will come around. Maybe if i learn to love myself he will do the same.... i jus wish there was step by step instructions to do it?
I know that I have at times was inattentive and distracted. And missed out on pertinent opportunities to voice appreciation. I truly regret those times.
Thanx so much everyone. I have taken some steps for example starting to study.... It has also helped me to focus more on my son. to look for special moments between us and see all the good things. Although i have to constantly remind myself that i am my own person and need to find the balance for myself and hubby i feel better. I think i just shifted the focus from being all i can be for my husband to being all i need to be for myself and my son.