We have to fix ourselves and be happy with ourselves to gain the confidence we need so we aren't do dependant on our spouses .if we don't love ourselves how can anyone love us or how can we feel loved. This is the part I need to fix in my life too .how do I get my confidence back. I don't want to have to depend on anybody....

Thanx darkangel1. Yea im trying my best to feel good about myself and maybe someday he will come around. Maybe if i learn to love myself he will do the same.... i jus wish there was step by step instructions to do it?

Thanx so much everyone. I have taken some steps for example starting to study.... It has also helped me to focus more on my son. to look for special moments between us and see all the good things. Although i have to constantly remind myself that i am my own person and need to find the balance for myself and hubby i feel better. I think i just shifted the focus from being all i can be for my husband to being all i need to be for myself and my son.

You are codependent on your husband. As long as you look to him for approval you will always feel this way. Find you a good counselor that can help you work through this. If you are not on medication see a doctor about antideppresants or whatever medicine the doctor feels you need. I was codependent on my husband for years. Needed his approval. It took him divorcing me to be able to lose this codependentness. And I am a differerent person. Try to get out of the house. Just take a walk around the block every day. Take your little boy to get ice cream occasionally. I pray that you get better soon.

I feel Excally the same way down to even the weight gain and kids...