We've been married almost 26 years and have 3 kids. Long story short, I was mentally, physically, and sexually abused by my father for years and kept it from everyone. I finally told my husband a few months ago, and although he was very understanding and pissed that no one helped me, I can't get him to understand how hard this is. I have severe depression and no self worth. I have never lived up to any person in my life and now my husband tells me hed love me… read more
I wish I had the right words. I'm sorry for the abuse you suffered. You are a survivor and that makes you strong, even if you don't feel like it. The only person you ever have to change for is yourself.
Is there any chance of couples counseling. Maybe he’d understand better if a professional can help show him.
I had went through the same situation. I was sexually abused for two weeks straight by a family member. But I had told my family they told me to lie and change my story. My ex was the only one who understood me but he wanted to take action but I refused in fear of losing my family. I lost him for me shutting him out and not communicating. But I still have my family. It hurts so much. We are both survivors.