I wish I had the right words. I'm sorry for the abuse you suffered. You are a survivor and that makes you strong, even if you don't feel like it. The only person you ever have to change for is yourself.

Is there any chance of couples counseling. Maybe he’d understand better if a professional can help show him.

I had went through the same situation. I was sexually abused for two weeks straight by a family member. But I had told my family they told me to lie and change my story. My ex was the only one who understood me but he wanted to take action but I refused in fear of losing my family. I lost him for me shutting him out and not communicating. But I still have my family. It hurts so much. We are both survivors.