Connect with others who understand.

sign up log in
About MyDepressionTeam

Connect with others who understand.

sign up log in
About MyDepressionTeam
Real members of MyDepressionTeam have posted questions and answers that support our community guidelines, and should not be taken as medical advice. Looking for the latest medically reviewed content by doctors and experts? Visit our resource section.

I Struggle To Becoming What My Parents Want Me To Be. How Can I Not Disappoint Them And Myself?

I Struggle To Becoming What My Parents Want Me To Be. How Can I Not Disappoint Them And Myself?

I'm tired of being a disappointment in every scenario: I'm not the fastest, the prettiest, the smartest, the kindest, the strongest... anything really. I never feel good enough, even for myself. How can I at least be good enough for me?

A MyDepressionTeam Member said:

Hi Love and Welcome!
We can't expect to please other people, we can only strive to please ourselves. I used to feel much the same way that I was not pretty enough or good enough or whatever enough. Then, I took up running when I was 30 yrs. old. When I ran my first 5 K race, I placed 1st in my age division. Both my parents and ever encouraging husband were there. My father was out on the course so he could cheer me in. "There goes my girl!" When I received a trophy, we drove to my parents house to show them. My mother said, "Oh, I didn't think you were that good, " in a disdainful voice! My father was much more positive, but besides that, I was proud of myself as I had no idea I would run as fast and as easily as I did. I began to think of everything as I triumph for the most part. Sometimes others would try to knock me down with nasty comments and sometimes that worked on their part. Now I take things much more in stride. Running did this for me most of the time with rare exceptions.

posted over 4 years ago
A MyDepressionTeam Member said:

Sometimes you can never be good enough but it's more about them not you, personal experience. What is something that your proud you can do?

posted over 4 years ago
Already a Member? Log in