honesty and openness between a relationship couple always builds intimacy. sit down and talk openly to him about it you might be surprised. my husband and i have been married 23 yrs and together 25. no matter what- we are not afraid to talk to each other about our feelings -now without fear- but only from just doing it and trusting.

I was sexually abused too growing up. It was not your fault and don't let the sickness of the people who hurt you destroy you. We are ALL beautiful children of God who deserve love and happiness from ourselves and others. Big hug.

@A MyDepressionTeam Member. I find it very hard to shut my brain of because of my sexual abuse my thoughts go to dark places. Just thinking about it makes me anxious. It's not about him it's about me. I'm even embarrassed to make love to my husband. In fact I deal with a lot of shame with it.

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I have not. been intimate with my husband for over 2 years. No matter how hard I try I get very anxious. Just writing about it now has made me very very anxious. I can't even let guilt make me do it. Thank God my understandings. We are going to counseling to work on this. I am only 56 and he is 61. I say do the best you can. Don't force yourself it will only make matters worse for you