I like this analogy. A girl walks down a street sheets the whole but still falls in but gets out. She walks down the same street she sees a bigger whole she tries to avoid it but falls in anyway she gets back out. This time this same girl knows that street has a whole so she avoided it and walks down a new Street and never falls in the whole again.

Be kind to yourself I was in a verbal and emotional abusive narcissistic marriage fir 20 years left 5months ago not easy but I just try and see positive and beautiful things and count my blessings. I am seeing a therapust

I was in an verbal and emotional narcissistic marriage fir 20 years .I left him 5 months ago and am busy getting divorced. It took guts to leave and start a new life. Be easy on yourself. At least you took the step to leave. Get help and learn to love yourself. You are awesome

I was in an abusive relationship for 4 years and it ended with me getting a protection order against him so he can't come near me anymore. I am now married to a wonderful man who is the love of my life and takes really good care of me. I think at some point you have to look at what attracted you to the abusive person and then when out in the dating world look for people who are nothing like that. That's my guess. I know it took a long time for me to trust again and I stayed alone for several years before agreeing to get involved once again. I hope you are able to determine what a good relationship is for you. IN the meantime work on being happy with yourself because without that you can never be happy with another. Hugs.

i was in a terrible abusive relationship for 8 years.

been out it 8 years and am in a loving relationship where my man treats me like a queen xxx