Should People In Your Past Stay In The Past? Even If You Miss Them?
Should People In Your Past Stay In The Past? Even If You Miss Them?
I stumbled upon some of my old messages with a friend I went to school with and I was hit with a wave of nostalgia. We've been friends since 7th grade, but our friendship got a bit more complicated around the end of freshman year. That was the year I realized I had feelings for her and those feelings didn't fade until about midway through senior year. I believe I fell for her because she was beautiful inside and out, incredibly funny, held the… read more
Thank you to everyone who responded to my question. I seem to be getting a lot of mixed answers, but I've made up my mind. After thinking about it, I've concluded that both she and I are not the same person we used to be. I tend to romanticize things that I don't have anymore. Yes, I may have some good memories with her, but it's probably a good thing that she's not in my life anymore. I remember this girl caused me a lot of pain and suffering. I did all these nice things for her, always had her back, and always made sure she was okay but yet she still ignored me half the time. Loving someone who didn't love me back is one of the most destructive things I've ever done. Given our history, I don't know if a platonic friendship is even worth it anymore. I suppose if she and I are meant to meet again, we will.
If he is the man of your dreams, then I wouldn't throw any wood onto an already dead fire, you may think you can control your feelings, but emotion is very powerful, any little spark can bring a fire back to full heat. Be careful X hugs
Hmm. What you could try is a text along the lines of: "Hi Jane Doe. I'm not sure if you remember me but it's Undead from Nameless High. I was remembering the fun times we used to have and I thought I'd get in touch just to see what you're up to these days?"
If she answers, then you can play it by ear. Widening your circle of friends could be good for you. If she doesn't or you get a bad vibe, then you can leave her in the past. For all you know, at this time she may be working as a crab fisher in Dutch Harbour, AK.
Yes their in your past for a reason, it's best not to dig at old wounds, you never know what it could unearth, people move on, and are not always who we remember them to be, there are a lot of people from my past who I both miss, but also realise have nothing in common with me, and could even be a danger to me if I were to reconnect with them, so those people who are in my past, tend to stay in past, just hold on to any good memories you used to have, and continue looking forward in your life xxx
