Thank you for you post Adriana. I really needed to hear that. Perfectly said.

Valerie Lewis --Have you ever had someone tell you "don't think about white elephants?" What do you immediately think about? White elephants, right? I think it's the same thing with emotional things. If you tell yourself to avoid thinking about a certain thing, it's very common to have your attention go straight to the thing you are trying not to think about. I think it's just human nature. Instead, maybe think about allowing yourself to touch those painful things for a bit. If you deal with them head on, you are less likely to need to overly focus on them and make yourself more upset.

It looks like it has to do with grief and loss? I have experienced 5 significant people in my life dying in the last 5 years, and a number of other people too. I have gone through a couple of grief therapy groups and it really helped. They talked in those sessions about leaning into the pain for a certain amount of time that you think you can handle, really feel it, and then as you feel able, move onto the other tasks or events in your day. If you are dealing with your pain in the time you allowed for it, you don't have to spend your emotional energy trying to avoid thinking about the people you love and miss! Hope this helps! Below is someone I miss!

My puppy dogs are always there for me 🥰

You are NOT alone.