I am not yet eligible for retirement with full benefits and have to work, but I have no "free" time (this time I post while waiting to see if I have to accompany a family member to the emergency room—now becoming a daily occurrence) and am simply a bundle of nerves. I am taking care of my blood pressure and have asked for help from friends, which my family will not accept because they are "strong."
Go ahead and accept the fact that you got the shit end of the deal. Not a whole lot you can solve with this unless you are able to provide in-home care.
With the help of the Lord 🙏😇🌹
consider attending a caregiver support group, even on ZOOM.
Inquire if there is any respite connected to your loved one's care, where they could go for a number of days, while you rejuvenate.
I get why you put strong in quotation marks all the folks men especially we're strong and if you we're upset the remedy was to just don't cry and don't get up set..they will take care of it in the future never mind enjoying life it's no acceptable