Chris, my guess is that you don't really expect to be perfect but you probably are harder on yourself than is helpful. I find that regret or shame can be particularly harmful so I try really hard to put things behind me. I tell myself that I was a different person at whatever time in the past has come to mind.

Forgiveness is for you,not the other person 🙏🌹

Chris you are on the correct path, but it will take a lot of time. However, you must forgive yourself first.

Chris I don’t know if you have read my story but I had to forgive or I wouldn’t be here today because I tried to take my life two times as a young girl but it didn’t happen. I had to still live at home with my Mom and siblings that had and were abusing me and my mom kept it up until I was a teenager and she was over me beating me with her belt again.. I looked into her eyes from my bed where she had me trapped and told her,”if she was waiting for me to cry or beg her to stop that it wasn’t happening and she could just go ahead and beat me to death”, well she kept on until she tired and I nearly bit my lip off but didn’t shed a tear.. I wasn’t grown and had to live there and also with my brothers so I had to learn how to forgive all and move on with my life, easy it wasn’t for a kid, and I had no one to go to. It didn’t help my depression a lot but I learned to live with it the best I could and married at 18 to get away from them but it took years before I would open up and get help.

Yes, and unfortunately, forgiving myself is the hardest. Is it just me, or is anyone else a perfectionist on themselves?