Friends unto the end is how I must view this and feel this. A lot of people do not realize how fortunate they are to have a support system. When you look at your contacts on your phone; take comfort in knowing you got people. I only got 4 and my friend is one of them and the rest are hundreds of miles away. This is the price a person must pay if they wish to separate themselves from toxic people and places and give themselves a better quality of daily life. Unto those who gave advice thank you.

I admire your loyalty. I realized that the answer I posted above was a response to a response, not directly a response to your post. It seems that you have a realistic idea of what this person means to you and his financial decisions are a problem you can set boundaries regarding, so that should ultimately work out. Hopefully he will see the error of his ways, but I know that a part of being bipolar is a compulsion to spend money. It has caused me a lot of grief and was beyond my control at times, like an addiction. Hopefully that is not the problem here. Best wishes for a continued meaningful relationship.

Pray it works out 🙏😇

I don't know why you guys are roommates when you are trying to separate at the same time. That has to make everything more confusing. It might be helpful to start journaling about what is going on in the relationship. You can even make a list of the things your partner does that you feel are harmful to your well-being. You can rate these things as being tolerable or intolerable. Then you will have a clear picture of why it isn't working out. In my experience, people don't change that much. We are a product of our upbringing and the events that have affected us along the way. Patterns of behavior develop and become ingrained over the years. It is difficult to change these things, it takes time, and is best done with professional help. I believe you have to make a decision and stick to it. Change isn't always easy, but it is sometimes necessary and certainly is a part of life for all of us. Best wishes on your journey.

It’s a hard place to be. I currently have my soon to be ex husband as a roommate and it’s tough. He still thinks we can work it out. And maybe, but only for a week or two before he goes right back. We’ve been married 14 years and This will be the first time in 5 years(that we stopped being partners)that I am saying no in regards to this.
I know I’m not handling this right for me and my wellbeing, I just don’t know how to