does anyone in a family where one sibling is treated better than the other ones? i am the last one and i in no way was treated the best, i was often emotionally and physically neglected and taught not to say anything about how i felt because no one cared. im not feeling sorry here im just saying what happend.there is just a notion that the youngest child is favorited and treated better but in my case that is not true. when i try to talk about how im feeling 'venting' i feel like my mom doesnt… read more
I wasn't the youngest but I was the 3rd my yonger sister was born when I was 11. By the time I came around my parents already had a boy and a girl. My brother was my moms favorite and my dad's fav was my older sister and then it was my younger sister. So I was kinda just left out there some times to fend for myself. My mom got brain posioning when I was just a young one. My mother also lost 4 babies so of course my brother was her favorite but after the posiniong she was never the same. As you and so many others have been through and so have I you got to find something even if it is small. I went back as far as trying to find out how my parents were raised and I began to understand so many things.
Can so relate. I have depression and anxiety. Life can be so tough at times. I hope you can find 1 thing positive in your life and maybe that may help!
I don't bother trying with them, it was more me be confused why she is treated better than everyone else is all.
I know they don't care about me.
Thanks for the advice though
You know I really don't think it matter's whether your the first second or third so on and so on. I learned to ask about how my dad was raised and what was his parent's like. I found out that my dads dad used to beat him. My dad had to quit school when he was 8 to help his mom with his 3 brother's. One of which had problems. I am not sure what it was but he didn't look like other kids which is fine I just wish I knew what it was. My dad started smoking when he was 10 tryin to fill the shoes of a father. I had children of my own and I just couldn't get over the fact that we didn't have a father daughter relationship. I grew up fast and hard. During my research I started noticing things that I didn't see before. Like his different behavoirs he really didn't discipline us much as far as spankings because he didn't want to hurt us. He did on rare occasion's and it was something we still remember. But my point is my dad didn't know anything else he only knew what he was taught so I couldn't fault him for that. When I figured this out things fell into place and my hurt and anger went away and I was able to see that yes he really did love me even if it seemed like he didn't.. I am not saying this is for everyone but it might be worth a try.
I am a middle child - my entire family actually disowned me 😢