Meeting a mutual loving partner can be difficult, especially if one or both partners are struggling with their mental health.

Some medications can sure have adverse effects on libido. But also can toxic relationships. My partner of 12 years needed to remind me everyday that I didnt perform like when we first met (the time prior to having children) when things were all blissful. Following continuous accusations of "not loving him enough" and disloyalty, the need for sexual pleasure disappeared completely and depression set in like a dark demon.

But getting away from his abusive nature helped me to arouse the women I used to be and gain love for myself again. But this took time, forgiveness and lots of self love to find personal desire and sexual need.

Dont give up hope and all good things must be a result of hard work and self perseverance.

What sex life!!

I have a sex drive, but it’s just to painful to be able to enjoy it!

@A MyDepressionTeam Member. Bold move. That is actually what me and my therapist are working on. I have not been intimate or to be blunt have had sex with a woman since my divorce (No. 2) in 2010. Now depression is just one layer of the onion for me as I have multiple diagnosisesessess. But it has definitely affected it, but what I have learned is depression is just one of the many beautiful facets of my illness and untangling the "sexual knot" is not just addressing depression or mental illness.

I have three boys, I have dated and have been married twice. I was sexually active or at least functional at one point, so the slow, quiet asphyxiation of my sexuality took decades. And getting it back is not just a matter of popping a blue pill. But the very first question my therapist and I addressed was did I even want it? And I couldn't even answer it at first. Like you, I thought that a positive sexual life is important for holistic well being. But my issues were not just depression. There were layers and like a video game, I could not progress to the next level until I dealt with this layer. I was also part of a convo thread about hyper-sexuality and sexual addiction and infidelity because of depression. So depression affects sexuality in different ways as well,.

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Depression for me triggers BED which = hella weight gain & zero self confidence and self esteem. And that completely kills my sex drive.