Sometimes taking the power back, making the non-contact choice can give you closure and reassurance. At least it did for me the past 10yrs. Only now my brother is getting married in a couple years (so far away i know) and my mother will be there (which makes me very uneasy already).

Carrying hate around with you is hard work. I learned to let it all go. Move on. But when the perpertrator won't even acknowledge or remember their error in ways come face to face.... that is down right infuriating! 😑

I never talked to my mother about how she treated me as a child or as a grown-up. When she was in her last days she actually said thank-you to me I was in shock. But I did learn how not to be a parent for sure.

He doesnt have to be in your life, if forgiveness is possible i would try. If you want your kids to be able to see their grandpa..maybe supervised visits with another family member ?

That is a hard one my beat from the age of 2 to 18 she beat all five of kids she has ruin ed our life physical and mentally all I ever did was said I was better then she said you will never forget bUT sadly learn to deal with you at a better person

I had to stop all contact with my family years ago for my own peace of mind. I'm okay with my decision. There was nothing they could give me that I needed in my life. My kids are my family now. As far as staying in the same house with your abuser....I don't blame you. It's good that you stood up for yourself.