This is an excerpt from a chapter on getting the right support from loved ones from my book "Depression Blueprint". It won't allow me to paste the whole chapter as it exceeds some limit or other. You can get the whole book free (May 4 - May 8) here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06ZXVMXWK

“Someone once told me to be careful when trying to fix a broken person for you may cut yourself on their shattered pieces.”

Trying to support someone who is in clinical depression is challenging to say the least. Depression sufferers tend to withdraw from social contact, even from the closest loved ones. They are self contradictory, giving mixed signals by saying one thing one day and saying something completely opposite the next. The more emotionally invested you get in trying to support them, the worse they seem to get, and the more hurt you yourself may end up. Your relationship with the depression sufferer may be tested and strained as time goes on, leading to breakups, tears, and a whole world of hurt all around. This is fairly typical.

Ever since I ran out on my then girlfriend of 7 years, I have thought about what I could have done differently back then if I had known what I know now after having overcome my depression. Over the course of about a year, she had kept trying to help me. But at that point in time, we didn’t yet know that what I had was severe clinical depression. I didn’t know what was wrong with me. There was just this horrific pain inside my heart. The more she tried to help, the more worthless I felt. Eventually, I couldn’t bear it anymore and moved out. She loved me and I loved her. But I ran away. I moved out within a day, leaving only scuff marks on the walls from the furniture I had a moving company take with me. It was traumatic both for her and I.

Depression sufferers require a very specific type of support from their loved ones. The reason being that, counterintuitively, the more you try to help a depressed person in the typical manner, the more self loathing they will feel. Self hatred is an immense issue for them that is often underestimated, both by depression sufferers themselves and those trying to help them.

The problem is that the typical manner of support usually starts by asking the depression sufferer what’s wrong. This verbal and very rational conversation never works. There is no “why” in depression. It just is. Even if a depression sufferer could think clearly enough in the depths of their despair, they usually won’t ever be able to pinpoint the exact problem, let alone provide a solution.

Continued in book...

Don't put your self worth in doubt 🌠If he loves you he will be your rock xxxxx but allow him to back off every now and then as it may be his coping strategy too.... we aren't easy I guess but we aren't just nasty horrible people... we are hurting too when we lash out or become introverted.... xxx

JoshHam pretty much summed it up.
If your boyfriend can't handle what you are going through now, how is he going to handle a crying newborn, all night feedings, changing and everything else that goes along with brining up a child.
You have to take care of YOU and your child right now. NOT HIM. He can read books about what's going on with you and child care that hes going to have tp know about...YOU have to take care of YOU!

If a man isn't willing to stand by you during your worst of times then he sure as hell doesn't deserve you @ your best weather it's his baby or not

If your meds work don't go cold turkey it's dangerous and you going to have a bundle of joy and something to life for and a child that God had blessed you with that you could life for and you are blesses you might not see it right now or realize it but it's true.....i know its hard but push through