I have been in a functional depression for several weeks. I say functional because I am still working, getting dressed, exercising, going through the motions. But when I am depressed, I withdraw. And several people I consider my friends have ghosted (ceased communications). I can't really blame them, because I'm not much fun lately. I know I could be the one to reach out to them, ask for what I need, but I'm frozen in this misery and can't seem to break out of it. So I sit here day after day… read more
Please seek help from a cognitive therapist. They really know how to train your thought process. Take Care
Id like to know that too i ib my roon watch tv. Listen to. Music alone. I only text people thats it
I understand how you feel. I often feel there is no love to be found in our world. I often wander if God even loves us because I can't feel his love for me. Maybe my definition of love is wrong. I have looked for love and given love only to find that it was not returned or appreciated. This lack of love makes one feel lonely, isolated and hopeless. And then life hits us a curved ball were we feel used and abused. Well I am in the process of picking myself self up from the gutter and dust myself off. I want to love me as much as possible. Pampering, caring, being kind, patient, forgiving towards me. I have written down a definition I have of myself and how important I am and gess what I am more important to myself than the Queen of England is to me. Take care dear fellow student in the school of finding love in this life. Faith, hope and love and the greatest of all these is love.
Yes please do xxc
When I fell into depression, I ran away from the love of my life. I pushed her away. Neither her nor I understood that depression sufferers need a special type of support.
Depression sufferers require a very specific type of support from their loved ones. The reason being that, counterintuitively, the more you try to help a depressed person in the typical manner, the more self loathing they will feel. Self hatred is an immense issue for them that is often underestimated, both by depression sufferers themselves and those trying to help them.
The problem is that the typical manner of support usually starts by asking the depression sufferer what’s wrong. This verbal and very rational conversation never works. There is no “why” in depression. It just is. Even if a depression sufferer could think clearly enough in the depths of their despair, they usually won’t ever be able to pinpoint the exact problem, let alone provide a solution.
I write more about this in the chapter "Getting the right support from loved ones" in my book "Depression Blueprint". It's free to download on Amazon but only May 4 - May 8: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06ZXVMXWK