When do people start taking responsibility for their own happiness?

I'm tired of being a disappointment in every scenario: I'm not the fastest, the prettiest, the smartest, the kindest, the strongest... anything really. I never feel good enough, even for myself. How can I at least be good enough for me?

I can not seem to get a grip and wrap my head around the following reality and try to move forward. Back in 1965 at age 5, i never got any real guidance about getting proper education and/or any skills, ( trade, craft, profession, livelihood, career skills ). I PAINFULLY worked at over 40 unskilled poverty paying jobs i never wanted since age 15. Now age 57 with no financially self supporting skills. And no money
At age 7 i was diagnosed with ADHD. I always had comprehension and… read more

How do you do it? I just don't care about myself. I know how to care for myself. I'm asking how to care ABOUT myself.

Everything I do is for someone else or because I'm "supposed" to do it but nothing that has to do with my own wants and needs seems important enough to me to prioritize.

I know logically that I'm supposed to care about myself. Care what I eat or how healthy I am but I just...don't.

How do I change this?

This is shameful. My husband and I have always been very intimate, we find each other very sexually compatible. Until recently. He left while I was pregnant with twins for work and I lost them at 5 months. We stopped having sex even after he returned briefly then left again. He was here in December and we finally got intimate again, his libido is very high as usual but it took forever for me to become aroused. I used to be so easy to please it really didn't take much... now I'm ashamed because… read more

I am convinced that my problems as an adult stem from the possible trauma I may have faced as a child and that my low self-esteem may be improved if I can heal from these traumas and reconnect with my inner child. The more I read about childhood development, the more I am convinced that most of our problems stem from our childhood experiences and could be eradicated if we identify and heal our childhood wounds.

I know how crazy this sounds but there must be some truth to it if most of our… read more

I mean feeling like you can't really talk about how your feeling and that others are just not interested or just don;t want to listen to you moaning because that's how they make you feel.