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How Do You Deal With Self-hate?
A MyDepressionTeam Member asked a question 💭

I don't know how to describe what I am feeling for myself other than saying it comes down to "self-hate". Ironically I do not have an issue with my appearance, it comes down to me hating myself, and there are only external reasons for this. Rejection from loved ones, disappointment time and time again etc.

Does anyone else suffer from this without a valid reason (internally) for hating yourself other than that of what others have done to you?

I have been rejected and broken so many times it… read more

posted August 21, 2017
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A MyDepressionTeam Member

I too can relate to this fortunately I do not hate myself anymore. I think spending 2 weeks in a mental health ward helped me realise that Im a good hearted and fair person. I have enabled a lot of people during my last relationship and being alone is one of the repercussions of doing that. At times I wish I could just have one last night with my ex partner and her children just so I could feel part of something. Then my next thought is I still have a lot of self love to achieve. But most of all I have to let go of what was and have faith in what will be. Ive also learnt is that only I can teach people how to love me and treat me and if I allow people to walk all over me then Im doing a dis service to myself.

Hope that makes sense.

Cheers
Amie

posted August 23, 2017
A MyDepressionTeam Member

Self-hate is a complex web... One sometimes wishes you could love yourself but it is never that easy!

Here is an article I found useful... perhaps if you would like to read it, perhaps there is something in it for someone here..

https://www.psychalive.org/i-hate-myself/

posted August 21, 2017
A MyDepressionTeam Member

@A MyDepressionTeam Member that's a great way to describe the feeling. Even if you are good to people.. You don't feel like you have done anything worthwhile. It's just not in you. I always need to please and serve people. That's who I am.

posted August 21, 2017
A MyDepressionTeam Member

Thanks for posting this. I’m still learning at 62 that most of my low self esteem and stressors come from my mother and siblings. They are bullies. I have to keep my distance. They say I need “to work on myself” when I stand up for myself!

posted January 20, 2020
A MyDepressionTeam Member

It is interesting and sad too that people who should feel good about themselves do not. Two musicians, one with family and a wife who seemly understand what he goes through yet he was in extreme self despair. It seems folks like us ( Depressives? have to be careful. Balance things right. If your doctor is not working with you for correct dosages on meds , go elsewhere. Make sure you do not sweat the small stuff ( sorry- we have to be more careful) I am an procrastinator and that hurts me in so many ways, emotion ly , legally yet I feel it is not worth it. Common thread I hear. We know we should do things yet we do not. I have extremely low self esteem issues due to being a Deefie and a Depressive ( 2 generations) . I do not feel I am worth it for folks to. And. I live with that. books and wanderings are my life. I fight hard everyday tovgetvup ( once I do- it's okay).
I do not get the people who have everything , looks and no impairments yet have major struggles. It is defiantly a chemical balance ( meds are important) and family parameters/ enviorment .
You have to find something that interest you and stick to it- become a ballroom dancer - one Manic depressive did that and became a local celbritity.another became really active and join marathons, etc. It puts you outside of yourself and make sure there is something you can feel good about yourself on. This is stuff I learned at 63.
Do not put on yourself demands you cannot reasonably handles.
Hopes it helps a little

posted August 28, 2017

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