It depends on why you said this, did you come up with this or someone else? I think depression sometimes makes you think you aren't good. Who gets to say and what does that mean anyways? Good, Bad, they are just constructs that moral society makes up, no one is all one or the other.

Amen

This is a really hard one. I wanted out of my marriage for many years before it actually ended. For some reason, I just didn't know how to leave, I was not a nice guy during those years. I did not treat my wife the way a spouse should be treated. I was verbally abusive on many occasions. I always thought of myself as a better person than that. I didn't think that I was capable of being hurtful toward someone on an ongoing basis. I was wrong about that assumption. There was mutual combat, of course, as there is in all marriages - especially the ones that are really in trouble. It was easy at the time to think that I was just defending myself against verbal assaults from my wife. But that's how wars get started. That's how wars are continued year after year, Both sides claim that a preemptive attack is justified. Both sides feel they have a right to their vengeance. It's ugly stuff and I am ashamed of the part I played in such behavior. Now was any or all of this a product of my depression? If so, do I get a pass for at least some of it? I just don't know the answer to either of those questions. I don't feel that I am deserving of such a pass. I don't want to duck responsibility for my actions. That's not what adults do.

Maybe you are a good guy and your depression is just making you think you aren't. Maybe talking to a therapist would help? I know mine helped me realize my patterns and what to do when I start thinking negatively, I still have bad days but they are days and not months now.

AMEN