I've been clean for a few months now but I feel self harm is the only thing that will put my life back on track...help me cope...make me feel normal again... I feel so lost...
I constantly struggle with this feeling too, the turning point for me was when one of my children noticed the scars I have and said "urge mammy what's that" it was destroying for me.
I sort of realised then that in the moment I was using self harm as a coping technique but long term it wasn't going to make any difference. If you have something, even a small reason to deter you from cutting keep it at the forefront as much as possible. I found other ways of coping, also keeping my hands busy at the same time, like just writing everything down, not with the intention of anyone reading it, not even reading it back myself, just as a way to get it out of my head, I also enjoy crafts, and knit often when u feel the urge to self harm, keeps my hands busy and my mind focused, hope this helps. I'm not saying my urges have gone but I've been clear now for over 6 months and before that it was more than a year.
I understand the constant struggle with these urges, but keep going all u need is that one reason to not do it.
My therapist told me to think about what you would say to someone who asked you the same question?
I guess one of the things is to connect with how you are feeling and in particular, what thoughts are you having before you want to self-harm? I hope you are going to be okay. You are very brave for reaching out.
My heart goes out to you *hugs and Kisses*
I was there I few weeks ago. You just need to avoid being alone sorround yourself with people who make you smiles and do things that make you happy