This isn't a question, so much as it is something I've been thinking about a great deal lately. Emotional and physical abuse have been a big part of my life. But when someone is abusive, they're able to manipulate the situation so that you're always at fault. As such, you perpetually feel guilt for their terrible behaviour. I've been thinking about the circular logic that abusers use. You will bring up or try to address their behaviour with them, and one of many different things will happen.… read more
I very much agree with you. My ex husband would put me down all the time and belittle me as would his mom. I thought what did I do wrong and why am I still here. When I started to take time for me he started to spin out of control which his verbal abuse turned violet and he then got physical and raped me yes you can rape your wife. Then I left I did feel guilty and I choice not to charge him A choice I regret now. My second experience with my common law partner was even worst. He would deprive me of food, heat, a place to sit, money, phone, timed showers, make me work for him then go to my other job. Be little me and be extremely verbally abusive. He attacked me one night and told me something that snapped in my head and made me call my parents and hey help from my Co worker and get an escape plan. He came after me again after I was out of there and living in abuse shelter that is when I got the police evolved and wrote what happen to me what he did and how. He was arrested and charged but once it got to the court it was thrown out as he figured he had permission as I let him get away with it.
Then this leads to my current husband he is not abusive we get along great we talk everything out and choice things together.
Abuse sucks- I absolutely hate it!! . . Sam . .
Don't let anyone make you the scapegoat. (look it up) Walk away from them and keep on walking or you will never feel good about yourself.