2 days after we started dating, he travelled to Texas to work there for 3 months and the weekend after his return, he took me on a romantic weekend away so we could bond. That was when I told him about my rape and subsequent depression. He's been 100% supportive ever since. I consider myself lucky to have him, as he is to have me
yea I love to be honest but when you feel its not going to go anywhere they don't need to know all of my ups n downs so too speak
I think it is important to find someone who knows that they can't fix it, and that it's not their fault. I had a partner who stepped back and said "I can't help you further than this, you need a professional" which was the best thing for me. He offered me support through counselling and helped me didifferentiate depressive thoughts from rational thoughts but didn't try to do more than he was capable of.
Other people can sometimes make you feel unloveable, saying they won't commit fully until you are at a particular point in recovery. Its better to cut them off- you should be trying to recover for YOU, not someone else, and the added strss is not something you need.
I've lived alone for almost 10 years , can't hold down relationship at all. It's such a shame because we do need someone that we can build a good friendship and relationship with so that if
we are ill at least we have someone who loves and understands us and can give us the hugs and cuddles we need when we're low. So many people go through this illness all alone and it's horrible , it's frightening it's a living hell. Lots of hugs love and best wishes to everyone reading this.
Margaret x
Don't speak about your Depression, the same as someone doesn't talk about their physical ailment's it's boring and would put anyone off you, if they knew all you had to talk about was Depression, that's very Depressing talking about Depression and they will avoid you.
Talk about hobbies tell jokes be happy, the more you make someone laugh the more they like you, though that doesn't mean you'll definitely get a date.
Woman want a confident man, who knows who he is and what he believes in !.
Trouble is for me at least at 51 year's old all the woman in my age group are married, oh well I can 'Flirt', and make them laugh!.