I dont think I'm a loser but @A MyDepressionTeam Member I do think I've been put on this planet to suffer and I dont know why. Nothing ever seems to go my way, I've had one of the worst years imaginable and day after day negative things happen to me rather than positive ones. It's easy to say think positive when good things happen only rarely. I do see the positives sometimes and am thankful when something positive happens, but I seem to have more rotten things happen than good and I cant handle it at the moment.

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It is SO HARD at times, listen to John Mellencamp's WHEN THE WALLS COME TUMBLING DOWN. Sometimes its all just too much, overwhelming debt, credit card companies that will not work with you, family members that are nasty and don't understand. Ultimately though it is up to us, me and you, to push as hard as we can to move forward, forget the past, forgive and move to a new day. A wise woman said to me, "Don't quit. If you keep moving you will eventually see the light at the end of the tunnel. If you quit though, you will NEVER see it." I think that thought everyday. I also use music, and at desperate times, I look at old pictures of when I was happy and try to instill in myself that I will be happy again. The song that literally got me out of a bad depression about 15 years ago is "Lose Yourself" by Eminem. It's a powerful song and you don't have to be an Eminem fan to love it. He himself has suffered multiple depressions and his therapy has been to make it into music. Also, my dog has been my best support. Dogs are SO smart and they know. I should walk him for exercise which is also an enormous help for depression, but I am just so tired when I get home that I can't do it. I feel like making it through a workday is a major accomplishment, so I leave it at that. I am so glad I found this site. I would love to hear stories of everyone. We all have found things that help and I am very open minded and non-judgmental, so please, feel free to message me.
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I believe our feelings come from our thoughts. If we think negative about ourselves then we wilt feel negative about ourselves. During an episode of depression, depression lies to us and tries to tell us how useless and hopeless we are but we have to fight it and try to negate the negative thoughts. So, yes I constantly challenge what my brain tries to tell me because it often calls me a loser when I know down deep I am not and neither are you!! Hugs.

All the time! And, having said that I do try every step of the way to keep a positive attitude. I believe that everything happens for a reason (hard to reconcile that sometimes) and I try to distract myself with music or trying to clean or organize - small goals. Or take a hot bath or shower. One day at a time. Do try to put a positive spin on things, hard but not impossible. Hope I helped.

@A MyDepressionTeam Member You're not a loser... no matter what your brain tells you. That's just negativity trying to gain a foothold on you. I used to think along similar lines about myself because nothing ever seemed to go right. But then I realised that it is an attitude and one that can be dropped. If you think and tell yourself that you're a good, honest, decent person... then over time, you can change the pattern of how you think.

Self-talk is very powerful and you can talk yourself up or down.

@A MyDepressionTeam Member says that for them, rotten things happen and that there are few positives.

This year, I have had a real corker... it's had some big ups and downs and right now I am in the midst of what could potentially be a major problem... but I am just remaining positive no matter how negative the situation is... because it can always, always be worse.

Try keeping a gratitude journal. At the beginning and end of each day, write down what you're grateful for. Seeing, hearing, breathing, good friends, supportive strangers, being able to walk and talk... whatever you feel grateful for. Pretty soon, you will see that your life is not as negative as it appears.

I question what my brain tells me all the time. You have to. And if it sounds negative, you march that thought right out of your head. It's good to question your thoughts and to challenge the negative ones. Some days we have really bad experiences, but at the end of that day, we're still a human being with thoughts and emotions and futures.

I hope that you challenge yourself and find ways to negate that horrid self-talk and pick up some new, positive routines that will help you to maintain good mental health!

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