Hey everyone. Just want a bit of advice. I recently moved jobs and moved to a new town but i am really finding it way harder than i taught it would be. I live with my best friend who knows i have depression and anxiety so she has been great. I just once i finished work i finding myself slip back into my old habits (staying in my room,becoming withdrawn etc) Is this normal when you make big changes while having depression. Sorry if this is a stupid question or makes no sense
New places are full of new opportunities. What kind of a place doyou live in? Canyou find a gym to go to on your way home from work? How about a museum? Or a park?
Getting into new habits on your way home could help your mind be more actively engaged in good things rather than whatever spins around your mind exhausting you maybe?
Not at all, change can be difficult but I find it can also be a positive thing because you are experiencing new things and getting out of old habits, yes the evenings can be very difficult, this is the time we slow down and start to think about ex loved ones or passed family members. Find something to do, a hobby, reading, writing, excersising, come on here for an hour and talk to people. Depression is an illness but like all illnesses it can be cured by the slightest thing. So don't give up, you will find your cure or at the very least find a way of living with it and controlling it so it doesn't control you.
I've learned one very important thing and that our feelings our like the weather they will change. So don't block or shy away from the bad feelings, accept and understand why you feel that way, by letting ourselves cry and be sad we can then let ourselves smile and be happy. To be truly happy we need to understand that our sad times will not last, we are only experiencing this sadness because of a song or the weather or a smell or our environment so learn to experience it understand why (cry if you need to, hit a pillow if you need to, scream!) and then let it go, then get up, shake it off and you will smile again my friend. Remember we're not depressed 24/7 we just have to learn to live and cope with the times that we are and know that it will (like the weather) soon be bright again.
TC
Hugh
I live in a small town. I looking at gyms right now and tomorrow i checking out the local library after work. Last few days i made a lil breakthrough on my lunchbreak i went into the canteen and had a few conversations with the people i work with and found a few smoking buddies to go outside with. I beginning to fell a bit better
i don't think there's any such thing as a stupid question...isolation feels like the only solution for me and i need reminding of that over and over...yes it's normal behaviour but honestly? i have to fight against what feels normal, as staying in over an extended period makes my illness stronger. wishing you strength to keep fighting :)
With me I've never liked change. I've never been a leader always a follower. It took me moving to a small town in 2011 to kind of get it together. Here inThomson is Serenity Behavioral Health System. This is where I was finally diagnosed with Bipolar II. It's taken the 5 years I've been here to finally get the right medicines to help me function half way normal. I have become a recluse in a manner. I stay to myself a lot. The reason for that is because I speak my mind without thinking of the consequences. Thanks to Serenity, my counselor (she retired in April), and my new medicine and strength I can function at a level that works for me.
Try to hang in there. Hope it will get better for you as you get used to the big changes. It's good that you have a good friend who's there for you.