It sounds to me like you have a similar relationship with your mum as I do with my dad.

If you are wondering how to handle the situation, I can suggest 2 things.

Firstly, if you are able to remain calm and collected, without emotional blow outs, I would recommend speaking to her face to face, alone, and telling her exactly how you are suffering, how it affects you, and how you feel about what has happened.

This can open the doorway to a lot of unknown truths for both of you. It doesn't always work though, so be prepared for her to not accept it. If that happens, I would sincerely recommend (for your own benefit) to distance yourself from her as a negative influence on your life and your daughters. If she asks why, tell her.

Secondly, if you don't feel able to be calm and collected (as I often can find with myself), a letter can be good. It will allow you to read it back before sending, so you can get your thoughts in order and make sense.

Either way, I wish you and your daughter well, and hope that whatever happens, it starts the beginning of a positive time for you. X

That's a tough one. My folks were divorced, so it was probably a bit easier for me. I hope you come right. It's such an emotional situation to be in. Good luck 🍀

i see her about 4-5 months a year only thing with not seeing her means don't see my dad either

It's a difficult situation. I stopped speaking to my mother for 13 years because she was always down on me. When we started speaking again, her attitude had changed. Maybe you need some space from each other for a bit.

It's a difficult situation. I stopped speaking to my mother for 13 years because she was always down on me. When we started speaking again, her attitude had changed. Maybe you need some space from each other for a bit.